Back to New Brunswick

Yesterday, Jason (my husband) offered to accompany me to New Brunswick, New Jersey – home of Rutgers University and other notable establishments. And when he volunteered to drive, I was all in!

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I was going to be interviewed by the Founder of Hidden Gems Literary Emporium, a family-owned book store, about my new book. Kaila is her name and she is a 28-year old Rutgers University (New Brunswick campus) grad with lots of passion for her family, community, and life’s work. Kaila was a joy to talk to as we navigated thought-provoking discussion about upcoming projects, motherhood, and social injustice and its impact on the family — all before our formal sit-down, on-camera moment.

Kaila

New Brunswick, New Jersey (and the neighboring Piscataway area) is no strange territory to me. I spent many days training here for my former job as a Family Literacy Instructor years ago. Children’s Futures of Trenton, New Jersey was the name of the program I used to work for and our professional development headquarters were located in the New Brunswick area.

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It’s amazing how God often uses the bits and pieces of our history to form such a beautiful story. Personally working with parents and the many days of training were all apart of the bigger picture. As I move forward with plans for Mommyhood Deconstructed to provide a more formalized childcare and enrichment program for moms of younger children, I realize just how blessed I am.

Kaila’s energy for the community she serves was simply inspiring. She and her husband’s endeavors were clearly a manifestation of God’s divine purpose for their lives. Their store, free book initiatives, literacy programs, ESL classes, and upcoming TED talk at Rutgers University are just what our world needs right now. It was an honor to partner with this power couple to offer my new book a home outside of its online location.

Kaila, her husband, and son

And now I present to you the evolution of Mommyhood Deconstructed’s expansion into children’s books, Why Should I Be Grateful? A Children’s Story of Faith and Gratitude in a Difficult World.


#BackToNewBrunswick

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#WhyShouldIBeGrateful ❓❓❓

Hard Day. Good God.

I write this with the busy mom in mind – the one who is handling, juggling, and maintaining a whole lot of stuff. No matter who you are – single, married, separated, or whatever – feel free to keep reading.

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Yesterday. It was long. It was hard. It brought up some old and not so good memories. My work requires me to show up in a way that is “pulled together.” It demands attention from me in ways that don’t care if I have a semi-sick child that needed to be dropped off at a relative’s house or if I have to navigate highway traffic or need to reorganize looming school assignments or balance a personal life and marriage.

It was a little over four years ago I attempted to return to work outside the home. And sometimes the trauma of needing to abruptly resign after a family crisis – just one year in – occasionally impacts me in ways I don’t care to admit publicly.

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Today my focus is simply to remain present in the moment while being grateful for the doors that God allows.

Amidst it all, I was reminded of something so profound:

God really does care. He is GOOD and desires to see GOOD things come from my efforts, work, and commitments.

Life will happen. Responsibilities will be there. Decisions will need to be made. Relationships will need to be maintained. Still – God is so amazingly GOOD.

We can find #joy in the long, busy days – somehow and some way. There’s a purpose to be fulfilled through us in whatever work, training, volunteer assignment, career, or business we engage in. God hears our prayers – the ones we breathe inwardly, frequently, and sometimes silently throughout the day.

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The smiles on our kids faces when we see them makes it all worth it. The conversations, laughter, love, and hugs are the reward as we realize just how blessed we are. We get to do this – not perfectly or without flaws. But we get to do this motherhood thing as an extension of our God-given identity of caring for these precious little humans.

#MyLittleOne ❤️

How can we remember just how GOOD God is in times of balancing motherhood, work, and life period?

  • We can talk to God about it all – anywhere and anytime. (Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. – Hebrews 4:16)
  • We can trust that God didn’t call us to function solo. (When Moses’ father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he asked, “What are you really accomplishing here? Why are you trying to do all this alone while everyone stands around you from morning till evening?” – Exodus 18:14 – 15)
  • We can remember that God calls us to good works. (For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. – Ephesians 2:10)
  • We can enjoy God’s design for our family, work, and life. (So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better for people in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them under the sun. – Ecclesiastes 8:15)
  • We can follow God’s example of being refreshed – spiritually and practically. (It is a sign forever between me and the people of Israel that in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, and on the seventh day he rested and was refreshed. – Exodus 31:17)

How is God helping you to balance it all these days?


Have you checked out my devotional journal just for moms?



About Keturah

Hi there, I’m Keturah Ford! I began writing the Mommyhood Deconstructed books in 2019 to challenge the facade of the ”perfect family” and initiated a Virtual Mommy + Me Story Time in 2020 as a way to bring people together during the COVID-19 quarantine. Since then, childcare services and enrichment resources have been added. THANK YOU for stopping by!

God’s Best Work…

This platform was started with stories and experiences of “imperfection” in motherhood, family, and life – period.

We support the belief that God’s “best work” is often happening in the things we sometimes “think” are not working in our favor.

#keepbelieving

#keeppraying

#keeptrusting

#FallReflections 🍂🍁🍂🍁🎃🎃

“For when I am weak, then I am strong….” – 2 Corinthians 12:10

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Vlog: Peaceful Night Routine + Recipe



Ending the night with brief journaling + homemade hot cocoa.

Recipe:

1 tbsp cocoa powder
1 tbsp white sugar
Dash salt
Dash cinnamon
Dash pure vanilla extract
1 cup whole milk
Microwaveable mug
Spoon

Stir together cocoa powder, sugar, salt, cinnamon, and vanilla in your mug. Add milk and stir. It will appear a bit clumpy but will even out once heated. Put mug in microwave and heat for about 1 minute 30 seconds to 1 minute 40 seconds.

Stir once again and enjoy. ❤️

Philippians 4:8 (NIV) — Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

#goodthoughts

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Vlog: Rejecting the Notion of Perfection


Hi, I’m Keturah! I understand firsthand the importance of soul care as much of what I testify about in the first installment of the Mommyhood Deconstructed Devotional Series (2020) is based on my own personal need to “lay it all out” before God in order to be a healthier Believer and mother.

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Blog Post: Perfect Performance Not Necessary

How something so subtle attempts to sneak itself in the journey of grace – “the need to perform.”


The journey of grace allows us to stumble, get up again, keep it moving, perhaps stumble again while asking for help, rebound, and the steps continue.


The journey of “needing to perform” yields non-confession, stumbling without asking for help, a stone-cold “I’m fine” – all the time, and stumbling again with little acknowledgement that there was a stumble to begin with.



I don’t know about you, but I personally need the journey of grace…


I was reminded of this reality in Biblical history concerning a certain woman. Her name was Hannah and she had taken all that she could take. Her home, marriage, physical health, and sanity were all on the line. And unfortunately, it seemed like there were few helpful solutions to choose from. So without shame she left her environment for a bit and did what some might only dare to do. She became completely undone, signifying “I’m not okay.”

1 Samuel 1 (NLT) 

8 “Why are you crying, Hannah?” Elkanah (her husband) would ask. “Why aren’t you eating? Why be downhearted just because you have no children? You have me—isn’t that better than having ten sons?” 

9 Once after a sacrificial meal at Shiloh, Hannah got up and went to pray. Eli the priest was sitting at his customary place beside the entrance of the Tabernacle. 

10 Hannah was in deep anguish, crying bitterly as she prayed to the LORD. 

11 And she made this vow: “O LORD of Heaven’s Armies, if you will look upon my sorrow and answer my prayer and give me a son, then I will give him back to you. He will be yours for his entire lifetime, and as a sign that he has been dedicated to the LORD, his hair will never be cut.” 

12 As she was praying to the LORD, Eli watched her. 

13 Seeing her lips moving but hearing no sound, he thought she had been drinking. 

14 “Must you come here drunk?” he demanded. “Throw away your wine!” 

15 “Oh no, sir!” she replied. “I haven’t been drinking wine or anything stronger. But I am very discouraged, and I was pouring out my heart to the LORD. 

16 Don’t think I am a wicked woman! For I have been praying out of great anguish and sorrow.” 


What a sight for the eyes! In her anguish, Hannah even appeared drunk to the priest on duty!


And this is what the journey of grace allows – space to cry, fall apart, voice pain, scream even, and most importantly pray…

Hannah had clearly accepted the journey of grace, even to the point of not caring who knew that she was in deep trouble. She prayed desperately in that place. Her reputation, makeup, clothes, and dignity took a back seat as she sought something bigger than herself – the presence of God. There was no need to perfectly perform for anyone. This place was sacred. She could lay her burdens down.

Matthew 11:28 

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
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1 Samuel 1

17 “In that case,” Eli said, “go in peace! May the God of Israel grant the request you have asked of him.” 

18 “Oh, thank you, sir!” she exclaimed. Then she went back and began to eat again, and she was no longer sad. 

19 The entire family got up early the next morning and went to worship the LORD once more. Then they returned home to Ramah. When Elkanah slept with Hannah, the LORD remembered her plea, 

20 and in due time she gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel, for she said, “I asked the LORD for him.” 

The journey of grace not only yields a safe space to fall apart but also to be put back together again in God’s way and perfect timing and perhaps with the assistance of some helping hands. Hannah had God and the reassuring and supportive words of Eli in her moment of desperation.

She was not alone in more ways than one… #TheresHope


QUESTIONS TO PONDER

How could “perfectly performing” become an obstacle in your life?

How does approaching God in prayer with boldness compare to remaining silent and feeling ashamed?

Who might you need to call on for support or assistance, trusting that God often uses others to show his love concerning us?


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